It
is proven that most of the top performers in the world are basically full of
emotional intelligence or high in EQ..no doubt about it.?.. The basic quality
of high EQ is self control-if mastered releases massive energy and productivity
keep the practitioner on track and highly focused.
Most
of us do not even recognize this skill.
We ignore it to the extent that we do not think it is necessary to have
self control over so many things on a day to day basis which distract us and
make us less productive.
Failure
to control yourself is -a failure. When you want to lose weight you fast or
exercise for a few days and slowly you tend to eat more that what you were
eating or quit exercises totally. it is
like taking 2 steps forward and 4 steps backward.
So,
you must be wondering, what kind of people have higher EQ and self control
which lead them to succeed...? Lets read
below carefully..
Forgiveness
is a virtue
Successful
people move on. They forgive themselves and others. They do not have time and energy to dwell on emotions
which lead to excess worrying and thinking behavior. By constantly improving on our and other's
past mistakes, we keep growing and freely flowing. Rising above failures, taking constant risk
and learning is how you take your EQ to higher level.
Saying
"NO" isn't easy
Most
of say "yes" to our friends, colleagues, bosses, parents, partners,
etc and then end up having whole lot of problem which we cannot solve. why? it is the most easiest way to get rid of
a problem, a challenge, or please someone or keep your circle happy. It steals
away your focus, on what you really need to do day in day out. and what to
avoid. It may lead to stress, depression and psychological issues. It decreases your commitment level towards
your work, family, and society.
I
am not "Perfect."
Learning
to accept failure when we take risk also make us realize that we are not
perfect. We keep improving and finding solutions to our problems and mistakes,
hence we take 10 years to become a master of a craft, profession, or skill. Trying to be perfect will end up blaming
ourselves and demoralizing our own continuous efforts. To work daily, smartly we need to be
motivated, improve and remove obstacles.
Problems
x3.
Less
focus=higher problems. We keep thinking,
worrying about our problems and build a negative aura around us which lead to
lesser self control. We are less in
actions and more worrying in nature.
Constantly finding solutions to problems and being active make us
positive, and improves our EQ.
“What if?”
Many
times you must have asked this to yourself or others. What if leads to increased worry and stress
around you and lesser self control.
This again is similar to focusing on problems than solutions or
actions. We must plan what to do next,
how to do, etc..but we cannot dwell on what is going to happen next and
decrease our productive time and self control.
Eat, Sleep and Exercise
You may not hit the gym
daily, sleep 8 hrs, or eat lots of salads and green veg to keep yourself
healthy. Daily 10 min of exercise, good
amount of water, avoid junk food, and sleeping for 6 hrs is a MUST to keep your
body and mind healthy. Less of all
these three lead to poor blood supply to all our vital organs and hence less
productivity and EQ.
Relax, meditate.
For 5 minutes if you focus
on your breathing, it improves self control. That is it. you do not have to go
to forest to practice meditation. You
can be a self control machine by doing as little as that daily.
Avoid
negative self talk
Watch
your thoughts..what they are..how they affect you. By doing that you learn to
discriminate between your negative and positive thoughts. You may keep a diary to record your negative
thoughts as an when they come. This will
help you to avoid them when they arrive. Sometimes you need to find out whether
these negative thoughts are really true, by exploring, communicating with your
near and dear ones, and then focusing on your right potential with positive
thoughts.
